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Go Ahead, Keep Up With The Joneses
The Joneses are getting a bad rap. They’re just doing their thing. Little by little they are accomplishing their great goals. A little everyday; a lot over time. Meanwhile, you’re sitting out on the stoop taking your last drag of an expensively taxed cigarette that you know you shouldn’t be smoking because you can’t afford them now and you probably won’t be able to afford the medical costs later.
Or maybe it’s the end of a long day and you’re pulling into the driveway in your jalopy that you curse every morning and bless every night because it got you where you wanted to go without breaking down.
No matter, some people manage to always blame the Joneses. It’s not their fault. They’re working hard on the things that are important to them. All you’re seeing is the results of their efforts.
Look closer. Get to know them. It’s been said we’re the average of the five people we spend the majority of our time with. Maybe you need to up the average. Spend a little less time with the people who are agreeing with you that yes the economy is bad, and government is bad, and the weather is bad and things aren’t like they used to be. Maybe you should spend some time with the people who may or may not agree with the current conditions but are working within the constraints of them; and instead are focused on the possibilities of life.
When you play a game, be it sports, or chess or hot dog eating with someone who isn’t as good as you it’s great for your ego because you win and you get to brag and rub their face in it. But honestly that gets old, and if you aren’t challenging yourself you’re getting old too, and faster than you think. Conversely, if you play against people who are better than you, you’ll probably lose. If you reflect and “study the films” you’ll learn something. And if you keep playing against those type of people you will continually learn and progressively improve. Eventually you will beat them and that will be better, because that win is based on effort, growth and skill, not by picking on the little guy. Not by bullying.
Back to the Joneses. We all have them, that person, family, or group we equally admire and despise. It’s not fair that we despise them. We just do because their success reminds us of our failure. There’s a cure for that. Stop acting like a failure. Get off your rump and start working on your great goals. As you start achieving them you’ll notice people coming to you for advice on how you did it and can you help them. You can and you will, because that thrill is a helluva lot more satisfying then repeatedly beating some pimp squeak.
Soon, you and the Joneses will be helping each other get better. Some people look at it as friendly competition. If that helps you for now, go for it. Unfortunately that’s still a win-lose mentality. Real success comes when you realize you’re bettering not only each other, but those around you. That’s acting with a sense of responsibility and stewardship. Learning not only for the benefit of your own goals but also, eventually even more so, for the benefit of others.
If You’re “Just the Messenger” You’re also Not the Leader
Have you ever noticed that the people who come to you with bad news often say, “Don’t blame me, I’m just the messenger” or “don’t shoot the messenger”? Creating an environment where people feel safe to share opinions, ideas or air disagreements is crucial for any leader. It’s seldom we ever move forward without some debate on important issues. That’s partly how we know they’re important in the first place.
When someone immediately slips into defensive mode of “don’t blame me” one of two things are happening.
One, you may have a reputation of ruling with an iron fist and that receiving bad news is not welcome. This is not a long term winning strategy by they way.
Or more often, the person sharing the “news” is being a busy body or worse, completely abdicating their responsibility.
Don’t let them get away with it. No one is assigning blame. Be professional. This isn’t a whoever smelt it dealt it scenario. It can be enormously frustrating to work with these non-leaders, but as a leader yourself this becomes a teachable moment.
Don’t let them slink away without asking them for their ideas, suggestions or feelings on the matter. In the event they just are a busy body this with trap them in the realization that they are guilty of having no original thought which will cause them to fluster and quickly and leave. Good riddance.
If they are merely shy or lack confidence, your prompts will provide a safe environment for them to potentially reveal some useful information that you didn’t previously have access too. Thank them for their contributions and move on.
When you have the chance to lead, lead.
Introducing The Write Goal
How to Finally Get Your Writing Project Written
I wanted to make sure readers of the Reflections on Leadership blog were among the first to know about a new offering I’m adding to my consultancy.
The program is titled; The Write Goal; How to Finally Get Your Writing Project Written.
I’ve come across so many people filled with desire to start their writing project. Nearly everyone I come across has a book in them but few can get it out.
With The Write Goal you’ll explore the why of your project. You’ll be able to discern what’s keeping you from your writing goal and what will pull you closer to it.
Using similar goal getting principles that have helped executive leaders get things done and high performing teams stay focused on their goal, The Write Goal replaces the disappointment you’ve been enduring with productive insights you can put to work immediately.
Fiction, Non-Fiction, Poetry or Prose, nearly everyone has a book in them, but very few can get it out. This self study course helps you get it done at your own pace. Click here to learn More about The Write Goal.
Solve the Damn Problem
I admit it, I can be as politically correct in my language as the some of the most ardent liberals. To me it can show sensitivity or at least tolerance if not compassion in an increasingly intolerant country. As a writer, words matter. That’s why I believe we shouldn’t sugarcoat the things that we face as a nation and by extension as individuals. Let’s not waste time calling things “formidable challenges” when they’re “big problems. America used to be able to solve big problems. As a nation we routinely lived our values.
It’s easy to be a bit romantic and forget about how horrible this nation used to be for women before suffrage or African Americans before civil rights. How poorly we treated our elderly, the mentally ill, and non-land owners. History’s canvas is sometimes painted with a lighter touch. Recall that hangings were common in my beloved city of Boston, the carcasses of criminals left out to publicly rot. The Son’s of Liberty tarred and feathered other human beings. A blind eye was cast in the slave trade.
We forget we were founded as a violent nation. We picked off British Regulars while hiding in the woods. At the time we were thought of as savages. We took pride in it as patriotic and character building. Yet when used against us in quagmires like Iraq and Afghanistan we consider it barbaric.
The American spirit will always be divided between those who look at us being here as a matter of Divine Providence and those who consider it the melting pot. That our greatest strength is taking the best ideas from everyone.
Winston Churchill once said, “Americans will always do the right thing, after they have exhausted all the alternatives.” It’s in that vein of faith I remain hopeful for America, but today a large portion of our population is apathetic. They might be angry, but they’re also lazy. Or they’re active without a sense of purpose. I’m not so sure Americans are trying everything with the spirit we are expected to. It can be taxing, but civil debate and disagreement coupled with pragmatism and searching for common ground is what has served this nation well in the past. The problem today is, our tries seem to be halfhearted, or we save the passion for the detestability of our opponents; political or imagined.
We are not trying hard enough. We are thinking less, worrying more and outsourcing our leadership to other nations, or corporations. As individuals we are all responsible for the eroding spirt and grit because we are complacently letting it happen. We celebrate the First Amendment by giving the microphones to crackpots then undermine the gesture by reporting the fear and hate they spout as fact rather than opinion. We are focused on symptoms and finding ways to coat, soothe, and relieve them rather than solving the problems that are making us ill. We moan and complain. We spend a lot of energy doing very little and here’s some of our results so far:
- 30% of Americans are obese
- 1 Million American High School students drop out each year
- We carry a $13.5 Trillion Debt
- We are #1 in Oil Consumption, #2 in Coal Consumption and #1 in Cocaine Consumption
- 2.3 Million of our citizens are incarcerated, giving us the largest prison population on the planet
We can do better. We must do better. We can begin by teaching our children and each other how to dream big, think profoundly, decide pragmatically and lead courageously.
There are no shortages of serious problems yearning to be solved. Pick one.
Below is a system designed to help you begin solving the problems that are in your purview to solve. If it looks like too much work, have someone help you. Being defeated from within helps no one. Find a problem that’s within your power to solve and begin solving it. Here’s how.
- Write down the problem or challenge that you need to solve.
- Describe the Desired State that could exist without the problem.
- Describe WHY it’s desired.
- Create a S.M.A.R.T. Goal to make your intention specific and real.
- Set the Criteria on how to find solutions to the problem.
- Generate a brainstorm list of alternative solutions.
- Narrow the list and pick the “best few” options.
- Assess each option’s feasibility and potential risks versus gains.
- Reach a tentative agreement with stakeholders of the problem.
- Put some resources on a “fall back” plan.
- Firm up the final decision and announce it to those affected.
- Develop an Action Plan to go forward.
- Implement the Action Plan with confidence and passion.
- Review, assess and celebrate progress.
Problems are often very complex. Their solutions seldom have to be.
A Month of Gratitude
“If one advances confidently in the direction of one’s dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
My friends, one year ago I cited the words above from Henry David Thoreau to proudly announce the founding of my independent consultancy, Karl Bimshas Consulting. Can you think of a better time to start a new firm than in the midst of one of the most difficult economies since the great depression? Recessions are easier to weather when you consciously choose not to participate in them. One year later, 25% of the businesses that started at the same time have failed. Not this one! Karl Bimshas Consulting is celebrating the inspiring results my inaugural clients achieved in year one. A sample of what they’ve accomplished:
Businesses
- Set and maintained internal and external email marketing campaigns.
- Engaged latent clients through relevant communication campaigns.
- Developed simplified Performance Dashboards.
- Improved Sales process, correspondence and simplified proposal writing.
- Received Executive Level Overviews of Social Media Trends, Project Management, Time Management, and Change Management.
- Improved internal and external corporate communication with employee and client satisfaction surveys and Response Management Improvements.
Individuals
- Started new businesses.
- Received sought after job promotions.
- Gained clarity on career direction.
- Earned sought after degrees and certifications.
- Improved relationships with supervisors and direct reports.
- Achieved targeted work/life balance.
- Pursued meaningful charitable contributions.
As long as people have the capacity to think beyond the status quo, there will be problems aching to be solved. By providing accountability, a fresh perspective and confidence, Karl Bimshas Consulting’s clients are guaranteed to find the a-ha within.
I’m grateful to be among the elite group of first year survivors and I’m going to share my gratitude with you throughout the month of May. Be on the lookout for free gifts of appreciation, opportunities to save on consulting services, and the announcement of new programs designed to help leaders and artists find, set and get their goals.
On a personal note, if you would like to keep abreast of my creative pursuits, checkout Twitter and Facebook, where I often share my goals and progress on my first novel, poetry and other creative writings as well as opinionated political commentary that may pique your interest or ire, depending on your point of view.
It’s going to be a great month, brimming with celebrations made possible by your ongoing support, thoughtful feedback and continual referrals to other leaders and artists who want to achieve more.
Thank you!
Are You Lost?
Let’s pretend you’re running late and suddenly realize you’re lost in a strange city and the street signs don’t make sense to you. You’ve got your mobile devices and your Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare friends are only a few keystrokes away, but your satellite connection is spotty. You approach a passerby and ask them how to get where you’re going. There are a multitude of possible responses:
- “I’m sorry, I don’t understand you.”
- They ignore you and keep walking.
- They give you colorful but convoluted directions.
- They offer to sell you a map.
- They walk with you and safely get you to where you want to go.
Which would you prefer? Which do you provide to your coworkers, customers or family? Change and uncertainty can be exhilarating or scary or both. The answer you prefer is not all that important. Depending on the stakes, you might be willing to shell out some money for information. You might not feel secure walking with a stranger. Depending on the circumstances, that might be exactly what you want.
The point is, people you care about are thrust into situations similar to this metaphor everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. As a leader and an artist, take note of the people around you. Some of them are lost and could use your help. If they ask you for it, don’t ignore them. If you don’t understand them, try harder because they’re at a bigger disadvantage than you. Be on the lookout for those who are lost and be the friendly face that helps them reach their goal.
The First Monday
When you got up to go to work today were you giddy with excitement to start the year off fresh or were you full of dread? Were you saddened that the holidays are over and you have to get yourself into a new routine? Do you miss your family so much that you want to share more time with them?
In the current economy, you might be grateful just to have a job even if you don’t really like it, which begs the question; why are you investing so much time in something you don’t love. Money? Duty? Habit? Fear?
Each morning you have a choice. You can get up bleary-eyed and mumble, “Good God, it’s morning.” or awake refreshed and bright-eyed and say, “Good Morning, God.”
Today, appreciate what you have. Find, create or develop excitement, maybe even inspiration for the year ahead for yourself or better yet, for others.
If you’re not happy where you are, you just found a great goal to work on. If you’re fortunate enough to actually be happy where you are, good for you, now go help your co-workers get in that same affirming and confident place.
Have a great day. It’s up to you.
Learn more by reading reading, “How to Stay When You Want to Quit; Re-scripting your life from whiner to winner” available on Amazon.com
Congratulations, You Made It.
Congratulations, you made it. It’s a new day, month, year, and decade. The “first of the year” has arrived, so no more feeble excuses. It’s time to get to work on you.
“But today? It’s a holiday.”
Well Kid, any day you make progress on your goals is cause for celebration so you might as well get started. Do something. Have you written your goals down yet? Have you shared them with a supportive person?

Most Contributed to Success
In a recent survey 38% of the respondents cited Support from Others as a major contribution to their success last year. This was second to old-fashioned Discipline and Persistence.
Of those same respondents, 55% were optimistic about accomplishing their goals in 2010. That’s a good start, although 100% would be better. Those who aren’t sure may be pragmatic or they may be a little too reliant on luck.

How Likely to Accomplish 2010 Goal?
For the nearly 20% who are beginning the year with low confidence there are two choices; break your goal into smaller manageable pieces, or find a new worthwhile goal. If you don’t think you can achieve your goal, how can anyone else?
Working on your goal will not always be easy so begin the habit of asking, “Does this move me closer to or farther from my goal?” If you listen to your intuition, you will always hear an answer. Heed what it tells you and choose to do the things that move you a little closer…everyday. There are 365 days in this year, what you do with them is up to you.
2009 Goal Survey
There’s very little more invigorating than pursuing a worthy goal. We carry out goals all day long, based on the decisions we make. Think about the last thing you accomplished. You did it through clear vision, a desire if not a burning passion, and you took some action to complete it. It could have been as simple as discovering a new place for lunch or finding a perfect gift for a friend. The good news is the formula works the same for those “great goals” in life that require you to put in some effort, planning and collaboration with others. Like starting a business, going back to school or learning another language.
These things don’t happen in an instant, but your decision to pursue them does. It’s that one magical moment when you know for sure that this is what you want to pursue. I love that moment. I’m addicted to that moment. They don’t even have to be my own goals; I get jazzed learning about other people’s goals.
At the risk of being an enabler, I’d like to learn about your goals. Take my 10 question, 2009 Goal Survey and tell me about your success or failure in finding, setting and getting the goals that are important to you.
Remember, if you need help finding, setting or getting your next great goal, give me a shout. Strengths based Personal Development is what I do.






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